Don’t get me wrong. I’m pro-choice. If the choices are more than do it or else! Though thousands of polygamists claim; “it’s my choice to be a polygamist,” those statements are completely inaccurate according to the most recent and numerous research based books written about brainwashing. I was a seventh generation victim of the demands of “principle of plural marriage.”
Dr. Kathleen Taylor, in her book, Brainwashing – The Science of Thought Control, states that neuroscience “shows that brainwashed individuals have more rigid pathways in their deep convictions, and that rigidity can make it unlikely that the individual will rethink situations or be able to later reorganize these pathways. The neuronal behaviors of brainwashed people behave so differently, critical thinking is nearly impossible.”
My 45 siblings and I, as well as 95 percent of those who practice polygamy in the western United States, were born or converted into families that sustain, preach Joseph Smith’s doctrines on plural marriage. Polygamists see Joseph Smith’s doctrines as laws, not choices, as are dictated in LDS Doctrine and Covenants, Section 132, where it is said that women are damned for sleeping with other men, and destroyed for rebelling against their husbands’ sleeping with other woman for HIS exaltation.
Not only that, but these polygamous women believe their prophets commanded them to have
as many children as their bodies will produce.
If and when Kody Brown’s, Joe Darger’s, and other polygamous “programmed” adults are ever able to break away from years and years of arduous indoctrination, (near impossible rigidity,) they will realize, like those of us who have been able to escape, that they too, never did have authentic choice. Aside from the many studies that prove polygamy is harmful to women and children, Patriarchal, traditional, polygamy which IS probably 95% of polygamy in the U.S., violates HUMAN RIGHTS, since it is not based on “Sound Choices.” Polygamy in these instances is synonymous with slavery.
Though I felt sick and violated, when my father asked me, “Are you Sophia, willing to stand as Sarah and give Sister Diane to your husband as his wife for time and all eternity?,” I had two choices: With all my heart, I wanted to be with my children and my family in Heaven. If I didn’t comply and keep sweet about it, I believed I’d be destroyed and damned to hell. So I forced some smiles and whispered, “yes.”
There are and have been more than enough reasons that polygamy is and has been illegal. Something must be done about re-defining laws that can and will be enforced to end abuses that are rampant in too many of these families.
Please check out our new and ever progressing Webpage for Sound Choices Coalition. I hear many people say polygamy should be decriminalized or legalized, with a few good reasons, such as pro-choice etc.
I agree with real choice, however! Please read this research about CHOICE and CONSENT.
Then you may want to SIGN THE PETITION to Stand Against Legalizing the Subjugation of Women Through Polygamy
Selective Amnesia Regarding Adult Consent in Polygamy What We Must Forget in Order To Justify Legalization or Decriminalization of Patriarchal Polygamy
My husband, LeRoy Decker, served his time in Germany, when the Iron Curtain was going up. His battalion was there to protect those who risked their lives trying to cross the Iron Curtain to freedom. He still serves his country right here from our home. Nearly every day he helps a neighbor, a family member, another discarded or escapee from a polygamous cult. LeRoy supports me and others who help gather any remnants of sanity and courage they might have after a life of trauma and programing to move forward.
Though we try not to let their gut wrenching accounts, and our countries’ ignorance about what is really going on right here in our western states change our mood of love and gratitude, they often do. It’s difficult to stay in peace when we hear X-FLDS, who dare defy threats of damnation and/or blood-atonement divulge forbidden information.
It’s been assured that Warren spent thousands of hours studying Hitler when he was young. Like Hitler, Warren meticulously and methodically set himself up to be a dictator based on totalitarian and autocratic ideology. He and his top henchman, his brother Lyle, recognize no limits to their authority; controlling the clan and keeping them hostage with threats and terror.
For over 55 years, FLDS generations have been trained to “without question,” do whatever their zealot prophets have dictated. Therefore the footwork had already been set in stone when Warren Jeff’s father and he solidified a system of autocracy, where only one person has absolute power.
Hitler demanded – and Warren demands absolute obedience. That kind of autocratic dominance became even more obvious to me in 1999, when Rulon Jeffs (with Warren’s insistence,) told my oldest sister and everyone else not to talk to, or allow anyone, including one’s own children, who’ve apostatized, into their homes. FLDS children and teachers were commanded to stop attending their own FLDS public school. Like Hitler, Jeffs also demanded that anyone’s “perceived evil doings” must be reported and punished.
This past year, all of the FLDS children have been, and are still being taken from their parents for “training” sessions. Nazi Party youth – mainly boys, were taught to rat on each other, hate their parents, and kill them and their siblings if asked to. FLDS children are warned not to divulge their “sacred” teachings to anyone, including their parents, or they will die. We wicked people “on the outside,” they are told, will kill them if they don’t behave.
Warren and his brother Lyle are still ripping fathers, mothers and children apart and re-assigning (prostituting) them again and again. There is hardly a family of thousands left in-tact. YET most fundamentalists, religious enthusiasts, and those of you who haven’t known the truth, claim WE – the United States, Utah, Arizona and Texas were evil and wrong for those so called “raids” – for severing family bonds and ties. Please note, pass the word and remember: in 1945, 1953 and 2008 the states were in reality, trying to rescue women and children from omnipresent polygamous bondage and slavery.
Warren may still allow a dozen or so men, whom he says “qualify” to impregnate any married woman who wants to conceive; as long as that union is witnessed. Since he’s such a pervert; I believe he requires those “holy sessions” be recorded so he can watch them from his prison cell.
The average polygamous woman has between 10 and 25 children. Many, (men call insane,) really brave women, who have fought “in anger” to save their children from sexual abuse, from being stolen into slavery and raped… and have tried to save themselves from repression, slavery, or anything else their priesthood-head deems a “not keeping sweet” issue, do not have a chance. They have been beaten up, arrested for domestic violence – diagnosed (by whom) with some form of mental illnesses, subdued with drugs, barely fed, and locked away until they repent and conform to their master’s inhumane and/or perverse demands. These abuses are still controlled and prolonged by Warren’s mafia like enforcement, all in the name of religious freedom…
Adherents are to once again prepare for another dooms day by literally having nothing and doing nothing but work. They must fast and pray for Warren’s freedom. By December’s end, Warren has prophesied, the world will explode; at which time he will miraculously appear on the mountain top. From there he’ll ascend, leading his “faithful” into the Celestial Kingdom.
The AUB cult I was born into was too controlling and crazy making; but I thank LOVE that I wasn’t raised in the FLDS cult! Not long ago, I proudly announced, “I wouldn’t have let Warren Jeffs, a pedophile and rapist, take my 8 year old son from me! I wouldn’t have allowed or given my daughters to him or any one of those perverted old men for anything!” Over my 50 years in polygamy, there were a lot of things I swore I’d never do. I once stood in front of a mirror and swore I’d never leave polygamy. But the saddest truth, if I’d have been one of those women you saw exiting the buses while Texas’ Division of Family Service attempted to RESCUE the women and children; or any that you see shopping at Wal-Mart and Costco in their long pioneer dresses I’m sure I’d have done anything “our” prophets told me to do. If you and I would have been any one of those thousand or more diminished and crushed souls born into this kind of cult mentality and Hitler regime – you too, may have have conformed in the name of God and fear.
Warren has convinced his clan that they are responsible for his incarceration. He’s promised them that the earth hasn’t been cleansed and they have not been “lifted up” because of THEIR lack of Godliness and faith. When the earth doesn’t explode at December’s end, as Warren has prophesied, and all of the people don’t get wiped from the face of the earth, will he trigger a mass suicide to prove, (cover-up) this of many of his false prophecies? His vast majority wouldn’t hesitate to drink the cool-aid if they were told to. Several who have left, said there were times they’d have slit any throat, if their prophet told them to.
Hitler’s crimes in Europe went un-noticed or disbelieved for nearly 10 years. Why? FLDS and other cult crimes have been ignored, covered up, and allowed for over 55 years while they have inner bred and bore hundreds of babies with fumarase disease.
Will it be too late to help the men, women and children avoid another (like) Holocaust? Are U.S. citizens going to keep their eyes closed to the atrocities that go on inside of this and other like-minded polygamous cults? Will some of our state representatives, law enforcement, hired lobbyists, and uninformed neighbors continue to be deceived, bribed, lied to, and sweet-talked by these programed clan’s – keep-sweet, conniving and convincing words? “Leave us alone. We are just living our religion.”
Today and every day, I thank LOVE that I’m no longer in polygamy’s strong-hold—that our children and grandchildren aren’t one of those FLDS Stepford wives, children, teens or men who have been programmed to blind obedience – to obey without question and propagate that same HITLER mentality.
With open hearts, knowledge, understanding, meditation, funding, housing and LOVE, all of us can all make a difference for those who have been and are still imprisoned in the false doctrines of polygamy, brainwashed in obedience, loyal to Hitler mentalities, and living an iron-curtain life-styles.
THANK YOU to my precious husband, and the rest of you, who continue to support our country with LOVE and integrity.
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I really like my publishing company and the people who work there. Even though
they work with hundreds, they make me feel like I’m the only author they have. I’m
pretty sure all of their authors feel the same way.