Polygamy Uncensored – Conversations With Kristyn Decker

Polygamy Uncensored – Conversations With Kristyn Decker, has been running for 11 months. In the last session listed below, I wind up my talk show with a review of most of the conversations with my past guests. On http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kristyndecker there are 40 archived conversations for you to learn from. Listed below are 35 from guests who have shared their stories of leaving polygamy, of their heartaches, and of their ongoing concerns. Among these conversations are professionals who have discussed past and ongoing research that informs you of the ongoing harms of polygamy to men, women, children and society.

Thanks to all who have eavesdropped on our PU conversations and passed the news along. Much honor to those who have done, and still donate some of their valuable time, energy and funds to help people who are leaving polygamy, because you care about them and the well-being of children and future generations.

Much gratitude goes to my past guests and co-hosts of this show, all of whom made great strides in informing the world about the harms of polygamy.

A special thanks to Paula Guenon, the producer of PU and Host of 2nd Act Boomers.com and Ajay Mata of Spiritually Raw T.V. who encouraged me to be the host of Polygamy Uncensored.  

And cheers to all who eavesdropped on our conversations, shared the news and will continue to!

                            Namaste,

It’s been a Very Successful Past Year on Polygamy Uncensored – Over view of 35 Conversations with Kristyn Decker

 

95% Of Polygamy Is NOT About Choice – Marion, a former convert to polygamy discussed the human rights violations she experienced and witnessed while in the same polygamous sect that both she and I left. We also shared the reasons most polygamy lived these days is NOT about choice.

Ex-Polygamist Husband’s Perspective – My full brother, Jay Allred, who is two years my senior, had 3 wives with whom he sired 17 children. He reminisced about the trials of being raised in polygamy, of his ongoing depression, and insecurities as a husband and father; and why he finally left.

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The Sound Choices Coalition’s Efforts to Make Changes for the Children of Polygamists – My good friend, Ed Kociela, is the author of “PLYGS.” It’s about the death of children’s souls, and the manipulation of people of goodwill. It’s about power, greed, and perversion, as perpetrated by the self-proclaimed prophet of a fundamentalist Mormon sect that hides in the shadows of the desert on the Utah-Arizona border.

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The Reasons Men and Women Live Polygamy, The Rights and Choices They Don’t Have, & Why So Many Stay – Rebecca Kimbel is a member of the Sound Choices Coalition & a board member of “Safe Kids Now.” She’s also my first cousin on my father’s side. We discussed the issues of rights and choices that don’t exist in polygamy. In this show, we destroy many of the myths of so called rights of polygamy as it is today.

Hardships of Leaving a Polygamist Culture – An anonymous guest told us of the hardships of leaving her families’ polygamist culture, and of the ongoing residual effects, even 20 years later.

Founder of Stop Polygamy in Canada Society (SPCS) – Nancy Mereska talks about her involvement with the Canadian court hearings that led Chief Justice Bauman to claim, “There is no such thing as so-called ‘good polygamy,” before his final decision to keep polygamy illegal in Canada.

Stolen Years: A Woman’s Struggle In and out of Polygamy – Kathleen Covington, an X-member of the AUB polygamist sect and a current member of the LDS Church, exposed her life in 2 different plural marriages, and the spiteful, inside lies and threats that stole years of her own life and children from her.

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Lies & Deceit – My brother, Clark Allred, and I talked about the deceptions & consequences of being raised in polygamy. Clark grew up being groomed by his mother, our father’s fourth wife, to become the next prophet. As he discovered the lies and deceit all around him, his dreams faded into remorse and confusion.

Author Victoria Reynolds – Transcending Fear: The Journey to Freedom & Fulfillment – Victoria grew up in Pinesdale Montana, where she was raised by her father, who had 3 wives. In her early years, she left, and has since helped many victims of polygamy and of other religious abuses, heal by realizing how love can transcend everything.

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  Kristyn’s Journey out of Polygamy into Gentle Activism – My friend and producer, Paula Guenon, who is also a Producer/Media Consultant/Radio Host discuss my in-depth journey “out of polygamy and into activism. What a long, tough, but exhilarating ride into discovering a joyous life and freedom!

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  Leaving & Recovering From Polygamy – a Young Man’s POV
– Willie Steed stared in Breaking Polygamy, and Runaway Project on 20/20. He was featured in a pilot project with VH1, and participated on a University of LasVegas panel discussion with Kollene Snow, Christine Katas and I, to be shown on TLC’s “Sister Wives” show. After Willie’s father was kicked out of the FLDS cult, his mother left with her daughters to keep them from being stolen from her and trafficked into another polygamous commune. At age 18, Willie also left the FLDS cult with nothing but the cloths on his back, to reunite with his mother and sisters.

Part 2 of Leaving & Recovering From Polygamy – a Young Man’s POV– Willie Steed  

Part 2 of Transcending Fear & Part 3 of The Re-Education of Willie – Return Guests: Victoria Reynolds – Author of Transcending Fear: The Journey to Freedom and Willie Steed, featured in Breaking Polygamy / The Reeducation of Willie on 20/20. 

Escaping Polygamy & Finding True Happiness – Venessa was born to a polygamist father who had three wives and 40 children. She was also taught that she had to live polygamy to please God. She could never think otherwise, so she married her sister’s husband as his third wife, and gave birth to 6 children before she was finally able to leave him and the culture. Venessa has since been happy in her lesbian relationship.

Raised with 3 Moms and 19 Siblings – a Child’s POV on Polygamy – Lucille, 22, is the 11th child of her father’s 20 children. She speaks of the difficulty of being raised with 3 moms and 19 siblings in modern day society, and of dealing with her sexual preferences inside and out of that culture. 

The Importance of Exposing the Abuses of  Polygamy  – My cousin, Rich Cooke, was beat up and left for dead when he was kicked out of Colorado City as a young teen. People were shocked when he returned many years later. Since then, he’s been accused of everything in the book. Rich calls himself a UN-itinerant preacher, and in speaking of vile perpetrators, he says, “None of the names have been changed to protect the innocent, because there are none.” 

Coming From 5 Generations of Polygamy – Irene Spencer, author of her New York best seller, “Shattered Dreams,” came from five generations of polygamy. As the second of ten wives, she was the mother of 14 of her husband’s 58 children. Her captivation story provided an intimate look at the daily struggles Irene faced a plural wife in Mexico among insane men and the “LeBaron” polygamist cult. She is also the author of Cult Insanity and Shattered Dreams Restored.

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Escaped Polygamy and Her Father’s Cult
– Beautiful, feisty and kindhearted Kollene Snow ditched polygamy about 3 years ago. She speaks out for the rights of those who are still held in polygamy. Her father has numerous wives, so she has more siblings than she can count. She was on the Sister Wives “reality” show again, this time with me, Willie Steed and Christine Katas, showing snippets of a 2.5 hour panel discussion at the University of LasVegas.

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The Ramifications Of Judge Waddoup’s Decision To Decriminalize Polygamy
– Marion Munn, Ed Kociela and I discussed the ramifications of Judge Waddoup’s decision to decimalize polygamy in Utah. Marion is a graduate student in the Communications Department of the University of Utah. She completed her Master’s Thesis that examines media rhetoric in the reporting of Arizona’s Short Creek police action of 1953. She focused on how attention was distracted from the child victims of statutory rape in a community that later spawned Warren Jeffs and the FLDS. These raised questions about children’s rights in polygamist communities today, and the discomfort that authorizes seem to experience in prosecuting child abuse within religious contexts. Marion has also worked with Holding out Help as an educational advisor for those leaving polygamy, and is a member of SCC. Ed Kociela has a knack for taking his readers behind closed doors. In his play Down-Winders, Ed takes his readers into the home of a family victimized by the nuclear fallout of the nuclear blasts at the Nevada Test Site. He also opened the doors to some frightening secrets locked away within a fundamentalist Mormon polygamous cult in this book, Plygs. He can also walk you backstage to hang out with some of the biggest stars in rock ‘n’ roll history.

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Polygamy – What Love is This?
– Doris Hanson fled the Kingston polygamous group when she was eighteen years old. When she was born, a leader of the group asked her mother to save her from him—to be one of his wives when she grows up. In the cult, Doris felt lost and alone for quite some time. Years later, Doris became a devout Christian, who currently has her own T.V. show called ‘Polygamy – What Love is This’, where she often compares Mormon Polygamist Doctrine with the Bible. On her T.V. show, she interviews people who have left the mainstream LDS Church, as well as many who’ve left polygamy. Doris is also the director of Shield and Refuge Ministries helping people leave polygamy.

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The Effects of Polygamy on The Physical and Mental Status of Women
– Dr. Susan Stickevers, from New York, got involved in the study and research of polygamy when her mother was the doctor of a suicide victim. The women drank Drano after her husband brought home a second wife and commanded her to deal with it. Dr. Stickevers discussed the effects of Polygamy on the physical and mental status of women. Muslim polygamy, she says is 4 times larger than fundamental Mormon polygamy in the U.S. She also went into depth about qualified scientific research as compared to anecdotal and anthropologist claims that “polygamous wives clearly suffer profound emotional and economic harm.” Her educated points of view and personal experiences recap threat of researchers’—that show polygamy is detrimental to all children, women and men involved, as well as to society.  

Is Polygamy Sanctioned in the Old Testament? – Lisa Seville is a graduate student of William Carey International University in Pasadena California. Lisa received her undergraduate degree from Westmont College in Santa Barbara, where she studied under the leading expert in the country from a sociological standpoint on the topic of New Religious Movements. She donated a plethora of things to think about when one considers “Is Polygamy Sanctioned in the Old Testament?”

Overcoming Abuse with Lu Anne Cooper, daughter of previous polygamist cult leader, Ortell Kingston –Luann’s father had 13 wives and more children than can be counted. She was married to her first cousin & nephew when she was 15, and later fled with her baby girls to keep them from being raised in the same polygamous abuse, dysfunctions and doctrines. 

The Lack of Balance In The Media On Polygamy – Paula Guenon and I discuss the need for more balance in the media showing the effects of polygamy as being not about choice, and how the mainstream media ignores those who are abused and much more. Don’t miss out on a spirited conversation from a person who spent 50 years in polygamy, and from an outsider learning the dark side of it.

Finding her Dreams and Developing Her Talent – Cora Fischer Stubbs was indoctrinated into polygamy started when she was just 10 years old. She lived through hellacious times along with the good ones. She was married to her first husband as a second wife and had 8 children and in a second marriage as a 3rd wife and had 4 more children. Cora dedicated her life to them, and found joy in developing her talents and dreams as her children grew and moved on. Her life and stories are currently being depicted by filmmaker Jill Orschel for next year’s international film festivals.

Special Edition – Ask Away – Kristyn and co-host Ed Kociela have a Q&A session. Great questions and answers! kristyndeckerbooks@gmail.com and edkociela.mx@gmail.com

From Life in Polygamy to Political Activism – Troy Bowles grew up in a polygamous family. At age 17 he stopped participating in the religion. After spending some time in the Navy, he returned to Utah and got involved in political activism. He busied himself writing his story and telling of the ethical problems he saw within polygamy.

Letters of Courage & ActivismRena Mackert was a member of the FLDS.  When her assigned husband, who was also her step-brother announced he didn’t want to live polygamy she was told by the prophet, Leroy Johnson, to marry his brother. When she refused, and told him about her molesting her as a child, she was called a liar and that she had the spirit of apostasy. From that moment on, she knew he was a fraud. She ends her letter saying, “I truly believe that decriminalizing polygamy would set human rights and civil rights for women and children back 100 years. We might as well bring slavery back.”

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12 year-old Brenda in the arms of evil.

Mark Valenzuela was Only 14 Years Old, When He was Kidnapped. In his families’ polygamist community in Pinesdale Montana, 3 men cut, beat and tortured him before they rolled him off a mountain side and left him to die in the middle of the winter. 40 years later, no legal or moral justice has happened to his perpetrators! After all these years, they continue to lie and cover up those atrocities, asserting to those “in the know” that their actions were vindicated by God.  

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There is Life After Abuse! Joslyn grew up on a fundamentalist Christian group and home, and attended a strict, cult-like “Bible College.” Having questions about her faith and seeking truth wherever it led, she was put under “house arrest” for wishing she could belong to another Christian denomination. She had a horrible experience with one of the church pastors, with whom she had been taken to talk with. Finally, her parents gave her an ultimatum—either stay in their home and faith, or move out. At 20 years-old, young, naïve, and having been raised in a sheltered environment, Josie fell into horrendous mental, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse at the hands of a “friend” she thought she could trust. Conditioned to believe that was all her fault, she felt helpless and alone. Now, she has a wonderful life with a wonderful husband. Josie wants you and others to know you deserve unconditional love and joy also! 

Katherine Patton, Director and Co-founder of Ricky’s Revolution Non-Profit, has more than 20 years’ experience as a counselor and educator in the mental health field. She holds a BS in Psychology, an MS in Special Education, and an MA in Community Counseling, specializing in At-Risk-Youth. She works extensively with emotionally disturbed children and adolescents, abused/neglected adjudicated youth on probation and parole, and their families. Her experiences includes a broad range of therapeutic environments, including outpatient day treatment, residential treatment, therapeutic foster care, intensive multi-systemic in-home counseling, and working with runaway/homeless kids on the streets. Katherine believes in the value of human connection and in reminding them, they are not only loved but lovable, beautiful beings. Helping those who are hurting is her passion and lifelong professional and personal commitment. 

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My press-release on Jay Leno’s HEADLINES! GOOGLE About Me and My Book

WOW! Me on the JAY LENO SHOW!

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Someone sent an article from So. Utah to the HEADLINES. Whoever did that – Thank you!
@ 11 min. 44 seconds into the show the article with my name shows up!

On the right side of the page from the link she posted, under “More Videos” click “Browse All Videos”, then at the bottom under “Collections” click “Headlines” then click on the Polygamy one.

http://www.nbc.com/the-tonight-show/video/tuesday-january-21-2014/n45386

There’s so much information posted about me on Google that it’s almost terrifying! Who would have ever known when I was in polygamy that I’d be speaking out and not able to keep my mouth shut when it comes to defending the rights of women and children? I thought, like so many others, I’d quietly leave, disappear into the world, write my book for my grand kids sake, stay busy teaching, being a grandma, friend, mom, and wife. . .  But now look what I’ve gotten myself into.

I look forward to real retirement though – whenever and whatever that is I’m going to love it!

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HAVE A WONDERFUL YEAR EVERYONE!

REMEMBER LOVE is the only thing that is real.

KD

 

RECENT Press Release:

Kristyn Decker was born and raised in the second largest polygamist sect in the U.S. Her father, Owen Allred, was the prophet of that group for 28 years before his passing. Decker’s mother was the first of his 13 wives, and born eight of his 23 biological children. Decker married at 17 and lived polygamy with her husband, sister wife and 11 children. While raising her own seven children to believe in polygamy, Kristyn taught off and on for 18 years in the AUB private school her children attended. In 1991, with five kids still at home, she volunteered in her youngest son’s Head Start class and began taking college courses. She took a job as an assistant Head Start teacher for four years while getting her AS degree, then was a lead teacher for four more years. During and after this time Decker attended and sponsored in self-help groups, volunteered with Utah State School Age Child Care Association on a research project, and joined the Utah Children Association. In 1995 she began teaching CDA classes to Child Development Associate candidates at Children First and presented at Early Childhood conferences. Right after that, Kristyn wrote her own business plan and received a half million dollar SBA loan to start a kid’s college. She graduated in 2002 with a BA in Elementary Education and Early Childhood and from Southern Utah University, and began teaching K – 2 in public schools. She ended her near 33 year marriage and left polygamy that same year. LeRoy came into her life in 2007, and she became Mrs. Decker in 2009. Decker founded the Sound Choices Coalition in June of 2012 after publishing her first book Fifty Years in Polygamy – Big Secrets and Little White Lies. While preparing her UNCENSORED edition of her book, she continued to spend numerous hours volunteering in many aspects with the SCC and others to help end human rights violations.

With Judge Waddoups’ recent decision to decriminalize polygamy in Utah, Kristyn Decker is even more concerned about the welfare of children who are born and raised in fundamentalist polygamy.  Her father, Owen Allred was the prophet of the second largest POLYGAMIST SECT in the U.S. for 28 years, therefore she knows first-hand of the inner workings and belief systems of patriarchal polygamy. Just as most polygamist children, Decker was also taught that husbands must have at least 3 wives in this life, and women are to bare as many children their bodies can produce . . . and damnation is the penalty for non-compliance. Decker followed those cohesive bribes, and lived polygamy with her husband before she finally discovered herself and the truth, and left.

Decker started college with 6 kids still at home, taught Head Start and then elementary school for 11 years. She recently resigned so that I could help women and children escape from polygamy’s stronghold, and to publicize her books.

As an author and speaker for the Sound Choices Coalition, which Decker founded to help end human rights violations, she speaks about the research that’s been done, of her own experiences, and of others who have also left that belief system.

In addition to the publication of Kristyn’s first book she had the opportunity to speak in many places across our country this past few years. She was invited to speak in many media sources, (several that aren’t listed): The Today Show, CNN Week-end News, Good Morning AZ., NPR Community Voices, The Fawn Rigan Show – WCCO – Minneapolis, KTAR Talk Radio, Jay Lawrence, KSL A.M. News, as well as in many book clubs, churches, and libraries.

Kristyn Decker’s UNCENSORED, FIFTY YEARS in POLYGAMY  book and E-book is currently available through: http://kristyndecker.org/my-book/ and from her seller site on Amazon at:

http://amzn.to/1aIpsNo

Her book will be available from Amazon Books, Barns and Noble and other book stores near the first of February.

 

Author, speaker, educator, Life Coach/Advocate & Activist

Email: kristyndeckerbooks@gmail.com 

Website: kristyndecker.org

 

Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Marion Munn, Ed Kociela and Kristyn Decker will discuss the ramifications of Judge Waddoup’s decision to Decriminalize Polygamy in Utah.

To listen to POLYGAMY UNCENSORED live on Wednesdays at 10:00 a.m.

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On the EDge: Waddoups’s polygamy decision not surprising

By Ed Kociela  http://bit.ly/JubUOm

December 14, 2013,

OPINION – In a decision that was not entirely unexpected, a U.S. District Court judge stripped the guts of Utah’s anti-polygamy law Friday. In his 91-page ruling, Judge Clark Waddoups […]

Letter was written to Paul Murphy of the Utah State AG’s office:
Paul,
If Utah is serious about appealing this ruling, here is a golden opportunity to gain some credibility and a chance of actually winning through using Dr. Marci Hamilton,  a heavy duty  expert in the field of  constitutional law and polygamy.
As a precaution against it becoming “lost in space,” below is a copy of an email about Hamilton’s offer, and my perspective, which I just sent to the AG’s office.

 

Mr. Brian Tarbet,

As you consider whether to appeal Judge Waddoup’s recent ruling I would respectfully ask you to consider using Dr. Marci Hamilton, an acknowledged constitutional expert, to make that appeal. From the court records, it is apparent that the attorney used by your office in this case was ill prepared and uninformed.

I have extensive personal experience in polygamy, have worked with a charity assisting people leaving polygamist groups, and have also spent the last few years researching polygamy at the University of Utah. Because of this I am keenly aware that to label criticisms of polygamy as being “religious persecution,” or as simply prejudice against “unpopular” groups in society, is a dangerous road to go down.

This latest ruling erodes what has already been ruled upon concerning the “Free Exercise Clause” of the Constitution – that all religious belief is protected, but that all religious practices cannot be, because some are damaging to individuals or to society. And  I know from personal experience, observation, and academic research, that polygamy as Chief Justice Baumann of Canada observed is indeed “inherently abusive.”

I have spoken to Dr. Hamilton who is a recognized constitutional expert with extensive background knowledge about polygamy. She is willing to assist you in your appeal. Her contact details are as follows;
Marci A. Hamilton Verkuil Chair in Public Law Benjamin N. Cardozo Law School Yeshiva University @Marci_Hamilton

Please seriously consider using Dr. Hamilton’s extensive expertise,  because the implications of Judge Waddoups’ rulings are enormous and potentially extremely damaging to society.

Working Toward Things that Will Make a Difference

Christine and I on the phone, trying to help some folks out of a bad situation.
Christine and I on the phone, trying to help some folks out of a bad situation.

Continue reading “Working Toward Things that Will Make a Difference”

Thor Stonewall Interview

http://thorstonewell.com/2012/12/05/kristyn-decker-author-of-fifty-years-in-polygamy-big-secrets-and-little-white-lies/

What an amazing young man! Not once did I feel threatened or exploited during this near-hour-long interview with Troy. He read my book and was prepared to ask questions that would enhance some of his audiences’ information about polygamy, and some of their perceived questions. It was an honor to have been invited to participate on Troy’s Webcast interview!

PLEASE check his web-site and LISTEN to my interview.

THANKS again Troy!