About Sound Choices Coalition (501 c 3)

Sound Choices Coalition:

Informing Society about the Realities of Polygamy and Advocating for its Victims

Sound Choices Coalition (SCC) is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization that is dedicated to raising awareness and working to end the damaging practices associated with polygamous cultures.

SCC’s goal is to prevent underage “marriage” (sexual assault or statutory rape); child marriage; forced marriage; incest; sexual exploitation; trafficking; physical abuse; sexual abuse; polygamy itself, with its emotional abuse and gender inequities; medical neglect; educational neglect; welfare fraud; child abandonment; and child labor within polygamous communities.

These significant harms not only affect individuals, but also the societies that permit such practices to continue. We advocate for the victims of these abuses, and lobby for legal action, new legislation, and a proactive approach to promoting societies that are just and stable.

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No practice that results in such ill effects should be a “right” under the US Constitution.
“The harms flowing from polygamy are too evident to ignore and too serious to allow to occur under the guise of fundamental rights.” (Lawyer, Thomas Buck.)

Is the polygamy issue “just like gay marriage?” Gay marriage and polygamy are vastly different in effect. We do not see the same abuses in monogamous, same-sex relationships. Gay marriages potentially offer equal power sharing and a stable unit that is not constantly changing with the addition of new partners.

Consenting adults? Many adult women enter polygamy under psychological and emotional pressure, believing that their eternal souls are in danger of destruction if they refuse to participate. Women from fundamentalist, Muslim, and other backgrounds face cultural pressures to conform to this practice.

Legislating morality? The US has always “legislated morality” independent of any religious rationale. Murder, rape, theft, etc., are illegal because they are morally wrong—i.e., they cause significant harms to individuals and society. The same applies to polygamy. Its results extend far beyond the bedroom.

“Good” polygamy versus “bad” polygamy? Canada’s ruling on polygamy found that “The harms associated with the practice are endemic; they are inherent.” This means that the harms of polygamy are not just the result of abusive individuals. Social, physical, or emotional harms are inevitable where polygamy exists.

Equal rights. Polygamy violates a woman’s right to equality and emotional health. Polygamy is “anathema to women’s economic, social and emotional well-being.” (Dr. Shoshona Grossbard.)

Disrupted family stability. In polygamy, men compete for women while attempting to maintain multiple relationships. This forces women to compete for love, attention, and resources. It also restricts time available for parenting and diminishes the economic resources needed for children’s well-being. Living in a family where the dynamics may change at any time as the father adds multiple partners, creates insecurity for children and family instability.

Women as a commodity. Polygamist males frequently seek to control the lives of females, who become commodities to be trafficked and traded between families and communities.

Increased sexual abuse. Holding out HELP (a Utah-based nonprofit) reports that over 90% of its clients leaving polygamy are victims of physical or sexual abuse (of which incest forms a part). Illegal underage sexual relations occur more frequently because competition for females drives down the age for “marriage.”

Polygamy, an antisocial and unsustainable practice. With a global 1:1 ratio of men to women, polygamy permits some men exclusive rights to multiple women, while denying other men a partner. One example of this antisocial behavior is the “Lost Boys” phenomenon. In nations where the gender ratio has been disrupted, sexual violence follows. (See India, where selective abortion of females means some men cannot find a partner.)

For More Info. Read: A Cruel Arithmetic – Inside the Case Against Polygamy, by Craig Jones

Conversations With Kristyn Decker @ Polygamy Uncensored



Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Marion Munn, Ed Kociela and Kristyn Decker will discuss the ramifications of Judge Waddoup’s decision to Decriminalize Polygamy in Utah.

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On the EDge: Waddoups’s polygamy decision not surprising

By Ed Kociela  http://bit.ly/JubUOm

December 14, 2013,

OPINION – In a decision that was not entirely unexpected, a U.S. District Court judge stripped the guts of Utah’s anti-polygamy law Friday. In his 91-page ruling, Judge Clark Waddoups […]

Letter was written to Paul Murphy of the Utah State AG’s office:
If Utah is serious about appealing this ruling, here is a golden opportunity to gain some credibility and a chance of actually winning through using Dr. Marci Hamilton,  a heavy duty  expert in the field of  constitutional law and polygamy.
As a precaution against it becoming “lost in space,” below is a copy of an email about Hamilton’s offer, and my perspective, which I just sent to the AG’s office.


Mr. Brian Tarbet,

As you consider whether to appeal Judge Waddoup’s recent ruling I would respectfully ask you to consider using Dr. Marci Hamilton, an acknowledged constitutional expert, to make that appeal. From the court records, it is apparent that the attorney used by your office in this case was ill prepared and uninformed.

I have extensive personal experience in polygamy, have worked with a charity assisting people leaving polygamist groups, and have also spent the last few years researching polygamy at the University of Utah. Because of this I am keenly aware that to label criticisms of polygamy as being “religious persecution,” or as simply prejudice against “unpopular” groups in society, is a dangerous road to go down.

This latest ruling erodes what has already been ruled upon concerning the “Free Exercise Clause” of the Constitution – that all religious belief is protected, but that all religious practices cannot be, because some are damaging to individuals or to society. And  I know from personal experience, observation, and academic research, that polygamy as Chief Justice Baumann of Canada observed is indeed “inherently abusive.”

I have spoken to Dr. Hamilton who is a recognized constitutional expert with extensive background knowledge about polygamy. She is willing to assist you in your appeal. Her contact details are as follows;
Marci A. Hamilton Verkuil Chair in Public Law Benjamin N. Cardozo Law School Yeshiva University @Marci_Hamilton

Please seriously consider using Dr. Hamilton’s extensive expertise,  because the implications of Judge Waddoups’ rulings are enormous and potentially extremely damaging to society.

Uncensored Fifty Years in Polygamy Available Now!

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Polygamous Hitler Regime


My husband, LeRoy Decker, served his time in Germany, when the Iron Curtain was going up. His battalion was there to protect those who risked their lives trying to cross the Iron Curtain to freedom. He still serves his country right here from our home. Nearly every day he helps a neighbor, a family member, another discarded or escapee from a polygamous cult. LeRoy supports me and others who help gather any remnants of sanity and courage they might have after a life of trauma and programing to move forward.

Though we try not to let their gut wrenching accounts, and our countries’ ignorance about what is really going on right here in our western states change our mood of love and gratitude, they often do. It’s difficult to stay in peace when we hear X-FLDS, who dare defy threats of damnation and/or blood-atonement divulge forbidden information.

It’s been assured that Warren spent thousands of hours studying Hitler when he was young. Like Hitler, Warren meticulously and methodically set himself up to be a dictator based on totalitarian and autocratic ideology. He and his top henchman, his brother Lyle, recognize no limits to their authority; controlling the clan and keeping them hostage with threats and terror.

For over 55 years, FLDS generations have been trained to “without question,” do whatever their zealot prophets have dictated. Therefore the footwork had already been set in stone when Warren Jeff’s father and he solidified a system of autocracy, where only one person has absolute power.

Hitler demanded – and Warren demands absolute obedience. That kind of autocratic dominance became even more obvious to me in 1999, when Rulon Jeffs (with Warren’s insistence,) told my oldest sister and everyone else not to talk to, or allow anyone, including one’s own children, who’ve apostatized, into their homes. FLDS children and teachers were commanded to stop attending their own FLDS public school. Like Hitler, Jeffs also demanded that anyone’s “perceived evil doings” must be reported and punished.

This past year, all of the FLDS children have been, and are still being taken from their parents for “training” sessions. Nazi Party youth – mainly boys, were taught to rat on each other, hate their parents, and kill them and their siblings if asked to. FLDS children are warned not to divulge their “sacred” teachings to anyone, including their parents, or they will die. We wicked people “on the outside,” they are told, will kill them if they don’t behave.

Warren and his brother Lyle are still ripping fathers, mothers and children apart and re-assigning (prostituting) them again and again. There is hardly a family of thousands left in-tact. YET most fundamentalists, religious enthusiasts, and those of you who haven’t known the truth, claim WE – the United States, Utah, Arizona and Texas were evil and wrong for those so called “raids” – for severing family bonds and ties. Please note, pass the word and remember: in 1945, 1953 and 2008 the states were in reality, trying to rescue women and children from omnipresent polygamous bondage and slavery.

Warren may still allow a dozen or so men, whom he says “qualify” to impregnate any married woman who wants to conceive; as long as that union is witnessed. Since he’s such a pervert; I believe he requires those “holy sessions” be recorded so he can watch them from his prison cell.

The average polygamous woman has between 10 and 25 children. Many, (men call insane,) really brave women, who have fought “in anger” to save their children from sexual abuse, from being stolen into slavery and raped… and have tried to save themselves from repression, slavery, or anything else their priesthood-head deems a “not keeping sweet” issue, do not have a chance. They have been beaten up, arrested for domestic violence – diagnosed (by whom) with some form of mental illnesses, subdued with drugs, barely fed, and locked away until they repent and conform to their master’s inhumane and/or perverse demands. These abuses are still controlled and prolonged by Warren’s mafia like enforcement, all in the name of religious freedom…

Adherents are to once again prepare for another dooms day by literally having nothing and doing nothing but work. They must fast and pray for Warren’s freedom. By December’s end, Warren has prophesied, the world will explode; at which time he will miraculously appear on the mountain top. From there he’ll ascend, leading his “faithful” into the Celestial Kingdom.

The AUB cult I was born into was too controlling and crazy making; but I thank LOVE that I wasn’t raised in the FLDS cult! Not long ago, I proudly announced, “I wouldn’t have let Warren Jeffs, a pedophile and rapist, take my 8 year old son from me! I wouldn’t have allowed or given my daughters to him or any one of those perverted old men for anything!” Over my 50 years in polygamy, there were a lot of things I swore I’d never do. I once stood in front of a mirror and swore I’d never leave polygamy. But the saddest truth, if I’d have been one of those women you saw exiting the buses while Texas’ Division of Family Service attempted to RESCUE the women and children; or any that you see shopping at Wal-Mart and Costco in their long pioneer dresses I’m sure I’d have done anything “our” prophets told me to do. If you and I would have been any one of those thousand or more diminished and crushed souls born into this kind of cult mentality and Hitler regime – you too, may have have conformed in the name of God and fear.

Warren has convinced his clan that they are responsible for his incarceration. He’s promised them that the earth hasn’t been cleansed and they have not been “lifted up” because of THEIR lack of Godliness and faith. When the earth doesn’t explode at December’s end, as Warren has prophesied, and all of the people don’t get wiped from the face of the earth, will he trigger a mass suicide to prove, (cover-up) this of many of his false prophecies? His vast majority wouldn’t hesitate to drink the cool-aid if they were told to. Several who have left, said there were times they’d have slit any throat, if their prophet told them to.

Hitler’s crimes in Europe went un-noticed or disbelieved for nearly 10 years. Why? FLDS and other cult crimes have been ignored, covered up, and allowed for over 55 years while they have inner bred and bore hundreds of babies with fumarase disease.

Will it be too late to help the men, women and children avoid another (like) Holocaust? Are U.S. citizens going to keep their eyes closed to the atrocities that go on inside of this and other like-minded polygamous cults? Will some of our state representatives, law enforcement, hired lobbyists, and uninformed neighbors continue to be deceived, bribed, lied to, and sweet-talked by these programed clan’s – keep-sweet, conniving and convincing words? “Leave us alone. We are just living our religion.”

Today and every day, I thank LOVE that I’m no longer in polygamy’s strong-hold—that our children and grandchildren aren’t one of those FLDS Stepford wives, children, teens or men who have been programmed to blind obedience – to obey without question and propagate that same HITLER mentality.

With open hearts, knowledge, understanding, meditation, funding, housing and LOVE, all of us can all make a difference for those who have been and are still imprisoned in the false doctrines of polygamy, brainwashed in obedience, loyal to Hitler mentalities, and living an iron-curtain life-styles.

THANK YOU to my precious husband, and the rest of you, who continue to support our country with LOVE and integrity.