About Sound Choices Coalition (501 c 3)

Sound Choices Coalition:

Informing Society about the Realities of Polygamy and Advocating for its Victims

Sound Choices Coalition (SCC) is a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization that is dedicated to raising awareness and working to end the damaging practices associated with polygamous cultures.

SCC’s goal is to prevent underage “marriage” (sexual assault or statutory rape); child marriage; forced marriage; incest; sexual exploitation; trafficking; physical abuse; sexual abuse; polygamy itself, with its emotional abuse and gender inequities; medical neglect; educational neglect; welfare fraud; child abandonment; and child labor within polygamous communities.

These significant harms not only affect individuals, but also the societies that permit such practices to continue. We advocate for the victims of these abuses, and lobby for legal action, new legislation, and a proactive approach to promoting societies that are just and stable.

Visit us at sound-choices.com and www.facebook.com/SoundChoicesCoalition


No practice that results in such ill effects should be a “right” under the US Constitution.
“The harms flowing from polygamy are too evident to ignore and too serious to allow to occur under the guise of fundamental rights.” (Lawyer, Thomas Buck.)

Is the polygamy issue “just like gay marriage?” Gay marriage and polygamy are vastly different in effect. We do not see the same abuses in monogamous, same-sex relationships. Gay marriages potentially offer equal power sharing and a stable unit that is not constantly changing with the addition of new partners.

Consenting adults? Many adult women enter polygamy under psychological and emotional pressure, believing that their eternal souls are in danger of destruction if they refuse to participate. Women from fundamentalist, Muslim, and other backgrounds face cultural pressures to conform to this practice.

Legislating morality? The US has always “legislated morality” independent of any religious rationale. Murder, rape, theft, etc., are illegal because they are morally wrong—i.e., they cause significant harms to individuals and society. The same applies to polygamy. Its results extend far beyond the bedroom.

“Good” polygamy versus “bad” polygamy? Canada’s ruling on polygamy found that “The harms associated with the practice are endemic; they are inherent.” This means that the harms of polygamy are not just the result of abusive individuals. Social, physical, or emotional harms are inevitable where polygamy exists.

Equal rights. Polygamy violates a woman’s right to equality and emotional health. Polygamy is “anathema to women’s economic, social and emotional well-being.” (Dr. Shoshona Grossbard.)

Disrupted family stability. In polygamy, men compete for women while attempting to maintain multiple relationships. This forces women to compete for love, attention, and resources. It also restricts time available for parenting and diminishes the economic resources needed for children’s well-being. Living in a family where the dynamics may change at any time as the father adds multiple partners, creates insecurity for children and family instability.

Women as a commodity. Polygamist males frequently seek to control the lives of females, who become commodities to be trafficked and traded between families and communities.

Increased sexual abuse. Holding out HELP (a Utah-based nonprofit) reports that over 90% of its clients leaving polygamy are victims of physical or sexual abuse (of which incest forms a part). Illegal underage sexual relations occur more frequently because competition for females drives down the age for “marriage.”

Polygamy, an antisocial and unsustainable practice. With a global 1:1 ratio of men to women, polygamy permits some men exclusive rights to multiple women, while denying other men a partner. One example of this antisocial behavior is the “Lost Boys” phenomenon. In nations where the gender ratio has been disrupted, sexual violence follows. (See India, where selective abortion of females means some men cannot find a partner.)

For More Info. Read: A Cruel Arithmetic – Inside the Case Against Polygamy, by Craig Jones

Polygamy Uncensored – Conversations With Kristyn Decker

Polygamy Uncensored – Conversations With Kristyn Decker, has been running for 11 months. In the last session listed below, I wind up my talk show with a review of most of the conversations with my past guests. On http://www.blogtalkradio.com/kristyndecker there are 40 archived conversations for you to learn from. Listed below are 35 from guests who have shared their stories of leaving polygamy, of their heartaches, and of their ongoing concerns. Among these conversations are professionals who have discussed past and ongoing research that informs you of the ongoing harms of polygamy to men, women, children and society.

Thanks to all who have eavesdropped on our PU conversations and passed the news along. Much honor to those who have done, and still donate some of their valuable time, energy and funds to help people who are leaving polygamy, because you care about them and the well-being of children and future generations.

Much gratitude goes to my past guests and co-hosts of this show, all of whom made great strides in informing the world about the harms of polygamy.

A special thanks to Paula Guenon, the producer of PU and Host of 2nd Act Boomers.com and Ajay Mata of Spiritually Raw T.V. who encouraged me to be the host of Polygamy Uncensored.  

And cheers to all who eavesdropped on our conversations, shared the news and will continue to!


It’s been a Very Successful Past Year on Polygamy Uncensored – Over view of 35 Conversations with Kristyn Decker


95% Of Polygamy Is NOT About Choice – Marion, a former convert to polygamy discussed the human rights violations she experienced and witnessed while in the same polygamous sect that both she and I left. We also shared the reasons most polygamy lived these days is NOT about choice.

Ex-Polygamist Husband’s Perspective – My full brother, Jay Allred, who is two years my senior, had 3 wives with whom he sired 17 children. He reminisced about the trials of being raised in polygamy, of his ongoing depression, and insecurities as a husband and father; and why he finally left.


The Sound Choices Coalition’s Efforts to Make Changes for the Children of Polygamists – My good friend, Ed Kociela, is the author of “PLYGS.” It’s about the death of children’s souls, and the manipulation of people of goodwill. It’s about power, greed, and perversion, as perpetrated by the self-proclaimed prophet of a fundamentalist Mormon sect that hides in the shadows of the desert on the Utah-Arizona border.


The Reasons Men and Women Live Polygamy, The Rights and Choices They Don’t Have, & Why So Many Stay – Rebecca Kimbel is a member of the Sound Choices Coalition & a board member of “Safe Kids Now.” She’s also my first cousin on my father’s side. We discussed the issues of rights and choices that don’t exist in polygamy. In this show, we destroy many of the myths of so called rights of polygamy as it is today.

Hardships of Leaving a Polygamist Culture – An anonymous guest told us of the hardships of leaving her families’ polygamist culture, and of the ongoing residual effects, even 20 years later.

Founder of Stop Polygamy in Canada Society (SPCS) – Nancy Mereska talks about her involvement with the Canadian court hearings that led Chief Justice Bauman to claim, “There is no such thing as so-called ‘good polygamy,” before his final decision to keep polygamy illegal in Canada.

Stolen Years: A Woman’s Struggle In and out of Polygamy – Kathleen Covington, an X-member of the AUB polygamist sect and a current member of the LDS Church, exposed her life in 2 different plural marriages, and the spiteful, inside lies and threats that stole years of her own life and children from her.


Lies & Deceit – My brother, Clark Allred, and I talked about the deceptions & consequences of being raised in polygamy. Clark grew up being groomed by his mother, our father’s fourth wife, to become the next prophet. As he discovered the lies and deceit all around him, his dreams faded into remorse and confusion.

Author Victoria Reynolds – Transcending Fear: The Journey to Freedom & Fulfillment – Victoria grew up in Pinesdale Montana, where she was raised by her father, who had 3 wives. In her early years, she left, and has since helped many victims of polygamy and of other religious abuses, heal by realizing how love can transcend everything.


  Kristyn’s Journey out of Polygamy into Gentle Activism – My friend and producer, Paula Guenon, who is also a Producer/Media Consultant/Radio Host discuss my in-depth journey “out of polygamy and into activism. What a long, tough, but exhilarating ride into discovering a joyous life and freedom!

  Leaving & Recovering From Polygamy – a Young Man’s POV
– Willie Steed stared in Breaking Polygamy, and Runaway Project on 20/20. He was featured in a pilot project with VH1, and participated on a University of LasVegas panel discussion with Kollene Snow, Christine Katas and I, to be shown on TLC’s “Sister Wives” show. After Willie’s father was kicked out of the FLDS cult, his mother left with her daughters to keep them from being stolen from her and trafficked into another polygamous commune. At age 18, Willie also left the FLDS cult with nothing but the cloths on his back, to reunite with his mother and sisters.

Part 2 of Leaving & Recovering From Polygamy – a Young Man’s POV– Willie Steed  

Part 2 of Transcending Fear & Part 3 of The Re-Education of Willie – Return Guests: Victoria Reynolds – Author of Transcending Fear: The Journey to Freedom and Willie Steed, featured in Breaking Polygamy / The Reeducation of Willie on 20/20. 

Escaping Polygamy & Finding True Happiness – Venessa was born to a polygamist father who had three wives and 40 children. She was also taught that she had to live polygamy to please God. She could never think otherwise, so she married her sister’s husband as his third wife, and gave birth to 6 children before she was finally able to leave him and the culture. Venessa has since been happy in her lesbian relationship.

Raised with 3 Moms and 19 Siblings – a Child’s POV on Polygamy – Lucille, 22, is the 11th child of her father’s 20 children. She speaks of the difficulty of being raised with 3 moms and 19 siblings in modern day society, and of dealing with her sexual preferences inside and out of that culture. 

The Importance of Exposing the Abuses of  Polygamy  – My cousin, Rich Cooke, was beat up and left for dead when he was kicked out of Colorado City as a young teen. People were shocked when he returned many years later. Since then, he’s been accused of everything in the book. Rich calls himself a UN-itinerant preacher, and in speaking of vile perpetrators, he says, “None of the names have been changed to protect the innocent, because there are none.” 

Coming From 5 Generations of Polygamy – Irene Spencer, author of her New York best seller, “Shattered Dreams,” came from five generations of polygamy. As the second of ten wives, she was the mother of 14 of her husband’s 58 children. Her captivation story provided an intimate look at the daily struggles Irene faced a plural wife in Mexico among insane men and the “LeBaron” polygamist cult. She is also the author of Cult Insanity and Shattered Dreams Restored.

Escaped Polygamy and Her Father’s Cult
– Beautiful, feisty and kindhearted Kollene Snow ditched polygamy about 3 years ago. She speaks out for the rights of those who are still held in polygamy. Her father has numerous wives, so she has more siblings than she can count. She was on the Sister Wives “reality” show again, this time with me, Willie Steed and Christine Katas, showing snippets of a 2.5 hour panel discussion at the University of LasVegas.

The Ramifications Of Judge Waddoup’s Decision To Decriminalize Polygamy
– Marion Munn, Ed Kociela and I discussed the ramifications of Judge Waddoup’s decision to decimalize polygamy in Utah. Marion is a graduate student in the Communications Department of the University of Utah. She completed her Master’s Thesis that examines media rhetoric in the reporting of Arizona’s Short Creek police action of 1953. She focused on how attention was distracted from the child victims of statutory rape in a community that later spawned Warren Jeffs and the FLDS. These raised questions about children’s rights in polygamist communities today, and the discomfort that authorizes seem to experience in prosecuting child abuse within religious contexts. Marion has also worked with Holding out Help as an educational advisor for those leaving polygamy, and is a member of SCC. Ed Kociela has a knack for taking his readers behind closed doors. In his play Down-Winders, Ed takes his readers into the home of a family victimized by the nuclear fallout of the nuclear blasts at the Nevada Test Site. He also opened the doors to some frightening secrets locked away within a fundamentalist Mormon polygamous cult in this book, Plygs. He can also walk you backstage to hang out with some of the biggest stars in rock ‘n’ roll history.

Polygamy – What Love is This?
– Doris Hanson fled the Kingston polygamous group when she was eighteen years old. When she was born, a leader of the group asked her mother to save her from him—to be one of his wives when she grows up. In the cult, Doris felt lost and alone for quite some time. Years later, Doris became a devout Christian, who currently has her own T.V. show called ‘Polygamy – What Love is This’, where she often compares Mormon Polygamist Doctrine with the Bible. On her T.V. show, she interviews people who have left the mainstream LDS Church, as well as many who’ve left polygamy. Doris is also the director of Shield and Refuge Ministries helping people leave polygamy.

The Effects of Polygamy on The Physical and Mental Status of Women
– Dr. Susan Stickevers, from New York, got involved in the study and research of polygamy when her mother was the doctor of a suicide victim. The women drank Drano after her husband brought home a second wife and commanded her to deal with it. Dr. Stickevers discussed the effects of Polygamy on the physical and mental status of women. Muslim polygamy, she says is 4 times larger than fundamental Mormon polygamy in the U.S. She also went into depth about qualified scientific research as compared to anecdotal and anthropologist claims that “polygamous wives clearly suffer profound emotional and economic harm.” Her educated points of view and personal experiences recap threat of researchers’—that show polygamy is detrimental to all children, women and men involved, as well as to society.  

Is Polygamy Sanctioned in the Old Testament? – Lisa Seville is a graduate student of William Carey International University in Pasadena California. Lisa received her undergraduate degree from Westmont College in Santa Barbara, where she studied under the leading expert in the country from a sociological standpoint on the topic of New Religious Movements. She donated a plethora of things to think about when one considers “Is Polygamy Sanctioned in the Old Testament?”

Overcoming Abuse with Lu Anne Cooper, daughter of previous polygamist cult leader, Ortell Kingston –Luann’s father had 13 wives and more children than can be counted. She was married to her first cousin & nephew when she was 15, and later fled with her baby girls to keep them from being raised in the same polygamous abuse, dysfunctions and doctrines. 

The Lack of Balance In The Media On Polygamy – Paula Guenon and I discuss the need for more balance in the media showing the effects of polygamy as being not about choice, and how the mainstream media ignores those who are abused and much more. Don’t miss out on a spirited conversation from a person who spent 50 years in polygamy, and from an outsider learning the dark side of it.

Finding her Dreams and Developing Her Talent – Cora Fischer Stubbs was indoctrinated into polygamy started when she was just 10 years old. She lived through hellacious times along with the good ones. She was married to her first husband as a second wife and had 8 children and in a second marriage as a 3rd wife and had 4 more children. Cora dedicated her life to them, and found joy in developing her talents and dreams as her children grew and moved on. Her life and stories are currently being depicted by filmmaker Jill Orschel for next year’s international film festivals.

Special Edition – Ask Away – Kristyn and co-host Ed Kociela have a Q&A session. Great questions and answers! kristyndeckerbooks@gmail.com and edkociela.mx@gmail.com

From Life in Polygamy to Political Activism – Troy Bowles grew up in a polygamous family. At age 17 he stopped participating in the religion. After spending some time in the Navy, he returned to Utah and got involved in political activism. He busied himself writing his story and telling of the ethical problems he saw within polygamy.

Letters of Courage & ActivismRena Mackert was a member of the FLDS.  When her assigned husband, who was also her step-brother announced he didn’t want to live polygamy she was told by the prophet, Leroy Johnson, to marry his brother. When she refused, and told him about her molesting her as a child, she was called a liar and that she had the spirit of apostasy. From that moment on, she knew he was a fraud. She ends her letter saying, “I truly believe that decriminalizing polygamy would set human rights and civil rights for women and children back 100 years. We might as well bring slavery back.”

12 year-old Brenda in the arms of evil.
12 year-old Brenda in the arms of evil.

Mark Valenzuela was Only 14 Years Old, When He was Kidnapped. In his families’ polygamist community in Pinesdale Montana, 3 men cut, beat and tortured him before they rolled him off a mountain side and left him to die in the middle of the winter. 40 years later, no legal or moral justice has happened to his perpetrators! After all these years, they continue to lie and cover up those atrocities, asserting to those “in the know” that their actions were vindicated by God.  

Mark Valenzuela – Part 2 —

There is Life After Abuse! Joslyn grew up on a fundamentalist Christian group and home, and attended a strict, cult-like “Bible College.” Having questions about her faith and seeking truth wherever it led, she was put under “house arrest” for wishing she could belong to another Christian denomination. She had a horrible experience with one of the church pastors, with whom she had been taken to talk with. Finally, her parents gave her an ultimatum—either stay in their home and faith, or move out. At 20 years-old, young, naïve, and having been raised in a sheltered environment, Josie fell into horrendous mental, emotional, physical, and sexual abuse at the hands of a “friend” she thought she could trust. Conditioned to believe that was all her fault, she felt helpless and alone. Now, she has a wonderful life with a wonderful husband. Josie wants you and others to know you deserve unconditional love and joy also! 

Katherine Patton, Director and Co-founder of Ricky’s Revolution Non-Profit, has more than 20 years’ experience as a counselor and educator in the mental health field. She holds a BS in Psychology, an MS in Special Education, and an MA in Community Counseling, specializing in At-Risk-Youth. She works extensively with emotionally disturbed children and adolescents, abused/neglected adjudicated youth on probation and parole, and their families. Her experiences includes a broad range of therapeutic environments, including outpatient day treatment, residential treatment, therapeutic foster care, intensive multi-systemic in-home counseling, and working with runaway/homeless kids on the streets. Katherine believes in the value of human connection and in reminding them, they are not only loved but lovable, beautiful beings. Helping those who are hurting is her passion and lifelong professional and personal commitment. 

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Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Decriminalizing Polygamy – Against Our Constitution? Is Consensual Adult Sex Good for Polygamous Children?

Marion Munn, Ed Kociela and Kristyn Decker will discuss the ramifications of Judge Waddoup’s decision to Decriminalize Polygamy in Utah.

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On the EDge: Waddoups’s polygamy decision not surprising

By Ed Kociela  http://bit.ly/JubUOm

December 14, 2013,

OPINION – In a decision that was not entirely unexpected, a U.S. District Court judge stripped the guts of Utah’s anti-polygamy law Friday. In his 91-page ruling, Judge Clark Waddoups […]

Letter was written to Paul Murphy of the Utah State AG’s office:
If Utah is serious about appealing this ruling, here is a golden opportunity to gain some credibility and a chance of actually winning through using Dr. Marci Hamilton,  a heavy duty  expert in the field of  constitutional law and polygamy.
As a precaution against it becoming “lost in space,” below is a copy of an email about Hamilton’s offer, and my perspective, which I just sent to the AG’s office.


Mr. Brian Tarbet,

As you consider whether to appeal Judge Waddoup’s recent ruling I would respectfully ask you to consider using Dr. Marci Hamilton, an acknowledged constitutional expert, to make that appeal. From the court records, it is apparent that the attorney used by your office in this case was ill prepared and uninformed.

I have extensive personal experience in polygamy, have worked with a charity assisting people leaving polygamist groups, and have also spent the last few years researching polygamy at the University of Utah. Because of this I am keenly aware that to label criticisms of polygamy as being “religious persecution,” or as simply prejudice against “unpopular” groups in society, is a dangerous road to go down.

This latest ruling erodes what has already been ruled upon concerning the “Free Exercise Clause” of the Constitution – that all religious belief is protected, but that all religious practices cannot be, because some are damaging to individuals or to society. And  I know from personal experience, observation, and academic research, that polygamy as Chief Justice Baumann of Canada observed is indeed “inherently abusive.”

I have spoken to Dr. Hamilton who is a recognized constitutional expert with extensive background knowledge about polygamy. She is willing to assist you in your appeal. Her contact details are as follows;
Marci A. Hamilton Verkuil Chair in Public Law Benjamin N. Cardozo Law School Yeshiva University @Marci_Hamilton

Please seriously consider using Dr. Hamilton’s extensive expertise,  because the implications of Judge Waddoups’ rulings are enormous and potentially extremely damaging to society.

Uncensored Fifty Years in Polygamy Available Now!

Signed copies and E-versions available here.

Fifty Years In Polygamy - Uncensored

Sound Choices Coalition – Press Release


ST. GEORGE – Members of the Sound Choice Coalition, a grassroots organization dedicated to retaining the state’s bigamy/polygamy laws and educating and enlightening the community about the dangers of polygamy, will visit the Utah Capitol the morning of February 13th.

 The purpose of this visit to elected officials is to ask them to resist any loosening of Utah’s existing polygamy laws—to not decriminalize polygamy in the face of a lawsuit filed against the state by an active polygamist. Newly elected Utah Attorney General, John Swallow, has said he will continue his predecessor Mark Shurtleff’s policy of not prosecuting polygamy.

            “If Utah decriminalizes polygamy then Utah will become even more of a haven for polygamy and the abuses inherent within that practice,” Kristyn Decker, founder of Sound Choices Coalition and a former plural wife, said. “When you are brought up in fundamentalism you are blinded from truth and reality.” Sound Choices Coalition hopes Utah will make a sound choice to protect women and children from the abuses of patriarchal polygamy, such as unequal distribution of power within marriage, being manipulated to live polygamy under religious duress, and the practice of having more children than parents can provide and nurture and so on. She underscored the mission statement of the Sound Choices Coalition.

“We stand for freedom from generational and patriarchal abuses that coerce and rob free-will choice,” she said.  “Our goal is to educate and encourage everyone to claim this freedom, and request others to do the same.”

“The Browns and a few others in the Principle Rights Coalition are asking that polygamy be decriminalized. Therefore we are asking that ‘polygamy,’ as is it known, lived, and professed, is studied and defined in depth before decriminalization is even considered. Polygamy does not compare to the sexual liberty of consenting adults. It is not about adult consensual ‘choice.’ It is the aftermath of arduous programming.”

“For a large percentage of polygamous children, their only choice is do or die… a girl will kindly and sweetly give her husbands other ‘wives,’ will have as many babies as her body will produce, (whether or not her health suffers or she is capable of nurturing them, and whether her husband will, won’t, or can’t provide for them), because if she does not, she knows she has failed to demonstrate her ‘worthiness’ and will be ‘destroyed’. Under such extreme coercion, this can hardly be considered a choice.”

Members of the Sound Choices Coalition will distribute personal stories from previous polygamists, a brochure detailing scholarly research and legal findings concerning the inherent abuses of polygamy of any kind, and a letter expressing the need for continuation of the existing polygamy laws. The coalition hopes to persuade Utah representatives to act in the best interests of society, and to protect the women, children, and men suffering from the abuses of the polygamous lifestyle.

Sound Choices Coalition Web Page and Consent in Polygamy

Hello everyone!

Please check out our new and ever progressing Webpage for Sound Choices Coalition.  I hear many people say polygamy should be decriminalized or legalized, with a few good reasons, such as pro-choice etc.

I agree with real choice, however!  Please read this research about CHOICE and CONSENT.

Then you may want to SIGN THE PETITION to Stand Against Legalizing the Subjugation of Women Through Polygamy

Selective Amnesia Regarding Adult Consent in Polygamy  What We Must Forget in Order To Justify Legalization or Decriminalization of Patriarchal Polygamy

Thank you!